Redefining Marriage: Sign of a Lost Society

One significant development in the recent election was votes in four states approving same-sex marriage initiatives. Until now, all previous state referenda to approve same-sex marriage – 32 of them – failed.

The Wall Street Journal editorial page – a place where conservatives usually turn for intellectual capital – saw this as cause for celebration.

According to the Journal, marriage definition should come from voters, not from court orders. Americans, they argue, have “shown themselves more than capable of changing their views on gay marriage the democratic way.”

In other words, our definition of marriage should follow process, not principle. Let voters decide.

“As views on gay marriage change, and a growing number of Americans support it, politics will follow. This is how it’s supposed to work.”

I’d guess if I asked the Wall Street Journal editors if the American Constitution should be viewed as a “living document” – if our understanding of its words and what they mean should be open to change to reflect attitudes of the moment – they would say “no.”

Liberals think the Constitution should be re-engineered every few years like an iPad.

So it is not surprising when liberals, for whom tradition is meaningless, trash once-sacred institutions in favor of impulses of the moment.

But it does surprise me when those whose politics are supposedly right of center, who view America’s founding documents as sacrosanct and give the highest priority to preserving their integrity, are cavalier regarding the integrity of an institution thousands of years older than our Constitution.

But it’s a point of view not uncommon.

In the 1850s, Stephen Douglas proposed solving the dilemma of whether slavery should be permitted in new states by suggesting that they should just vote. What could be more American than submitting the question of slavery to the democratic process of each state?

To this Abraham Lincoln observed: “God did not place good and evil before man telling him to make his choice. On the contrary, He did tell him there was one tree, of the fruit of which he should not eat, upon pain of certain death. … I should scarcely wish so strong a prohibition against slavery in Nebraska.”

Lincoln’s rejoinder to the idea of “popular sovereignty” – that states should vote to determine if slavery would be legal – was that there are core truths – truths that define right and wrong, good and evil – that precede the democratic process.

To reject this premise is to buy into moral chaos, which is what we are approaching today.

The claim that somehow it is a sign of a healthy, free society that by way of the vote we can rewrite our language, our dictionary, our oldest, time-tested traditions is a sign of how lost we are.

Same-sex marriage advocates argue that their efforts will save the embattled institution of marriage. But this takes a symptom of the disease and calls it a cure.

As American society has become more self-centered and materialistic, family and marriage have been imploding.

According to the Pew Research Center, in 1960 72 percent of American adults were married. This dropped to 51 percent in 2011.

Marriage and family is the pillar of any healthy society. It is the institution through which children are born and raised and through which time-tested truths and values are transmitted from one generation to the next.

To deal with the crisis of the collapse of family and marriage by redefining what they are is the sign of a society losing its way.

Fortunately, America is still a free country. Individuals can make their own choices about how they choose to live.

But taking personal choices to deviate from our social standards of right and wrong, true and false, and decide to change those truths and standards, so that nothing is any longer considered deviant, is a bridge to nowhere.

Star Parker is president of CURE, Coalition on Urban Renewal and Education (, a national organization that addresses issues of race and poverty through an agenda of faith, personal responsibility and limited government. She is also author of three books.
  • Truthsayer

    There just is no solid case for homosexual “marriage,” for several reasons, like:
    You wouldn’t know it based on the incessant “born that way” propaganda from homosexual groups (incidentally, no one has found a “gay gene” yet, so no one can yet prove that ANYBODY has EVER been born homosexual), but it’s a well-documented fact that many homosexuals, especially lesbians, were sexually abused when they were young.
    So why would homosexuals try to divert attention away from this with their unproven “born that way” propaganda? What kind of “people” divert attention away from the sexual abuse of children? This gives you some idea of the kind of “people” decent, moral people have to deal with on a daily basis. But maybe homosexuals will take “pride” in this diversion.
    It’s also a well-documented fact that male homosexuals are spreading sexually transmitted diseases all over this country. Indeed, this small minority accounts for about HALF of all new AIDS cases in this country every year. But there is no apology for all the expensive troubles they are causing via voluntary, disease-ridden, unsafe sex. Maybe they’ll take “pride” in this too.
    And homosexuals repeatedly offend blacks by comparing blacks to heterophobic people voluntarily engaging in sexual aberrations. The comparison between civil rights for blacks and civil wrongs for heterophobic homosexuals (thinking people have known for centuries that homosexual activity is immoral and a bad legal precedent) is demeaning. But there is no apology from homosexuals for this bogus comparison. Maybe homosexuals will take “pride” in demeaning blacks. Again, this gives you some idea of the kind of “people” decent, moral people have to deal with on a daily basis. Unreal.

  • Al Lassiter, Sr.

    Thank you, Ms. Parker, for your profound words, which I pray help us all see more clearly.


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